Barton Goldsmith: How To Feel Better About Yourself

By Barton Goldsmith
Tribune News Service

WWR Article Summary (tl;dr) Psychotherapist Dr. Barton Goldsmith shares a few suggestions on how to help lift yourself out of dark times.

Tribune News Service

When you are feeling personal pain, or are in an uncomfortable emotional place, it can be easy to get stuck.

All you may think about is taking a nap, taking the next dose of medication, or even self-medicating. What you may fail to do in those critical moments is change them. And doing this is not beyond your ability. I know because I have been there and done it.

When someone you love leaves or dies, it can cause pain and even emotional trauma. If you’ve been in a bad accident, even though your body has healed, you may become frightened when you find yourself driving in similar situations. Similarly, when you reach for the brass ring and continually miss, you can become emotionally wounded and be triggered more easily. You may find yourself being much more cautious and perhaps putting yourself out there less.

The common thinking is to consult with a doctor, take some prescribed medication, go to therapy, and understand that eventually you will be lifted out of this pit.

The key word here is “eventually.” I’ve seen it work a thousand times, but therapy does take a while, the meds don’t work for everybody, and if you’re having a bad day triggered by memories of the past and fears of the future, you want some help now.

If you don’t take control of your emotional state by taking some action (and naps do not count), you could be in this same place for a very long time. That thought alone is very scary and depressing.

Many people who get stuck find it difficult to do anything, and that’s okay as long as it’s only for a day or two.

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