Dating Apps — Men’s Vs. Women’s Approach

By Erika Ettin
Tribune News Service

WWR Article Summary (tl;dr) As dating expert Erika Ettin points out, the way men and women use dating apps is significantly different. While many men spend their time/energy focusing on a profile photo and then swiping right, women will spend much more time diving into the actual text of the profile before making a decision.

Tribune News Service

It’s no secret that men and women are different. I’ve been seeing in my clients that difference compounded when it comes to the dating apps, like Tinder and Bumble.

Men and women, regardless of orientation, use the apps in a very different manner from each other.

Of course, this is a generalization, and there are exceptions to every rule (and I’m sure some of you will point them out to me!), but I want to share some insights on the way people approach the dating apps.

It starts the same for both men and women: You see someone’s first profile picture. You don’t like it. You swipe left. (Swiping left means you don’t like someone, and swiping right means you do.) Done.

Now, here’s where the decision tree takes a turn…

As women, if the first picture passes the test, then we look at the remaining pictures. Gym selfie? Swipe left. Bathroom selfie? Swipe left. Unnecessary shirtless pic (as in, you’re not at the beach)? Swipe left. Pictures with lots of hot women? Definitely swipe left.

If we’re still on the “yes” train, now we spend some time looking at the profile. (I recommend 20 to 40 words, something catchy, something quirky, and something unique.) We look to see what, if anything, the other person has written. Nothing? Likely a left swipe. Something with poor grammar, anything sexual, or something remotely misogynistic? That also gets a left swipe.

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