Dealing With Crisis Is Exhausting

By Barton Goldsmith
Tribune News Service

WWR Article Summary (tl;dr) Therapist Barton Goldsmith takes a look at how we can access some self-healing after a day of disappointment

Tribune News Service

Going to sleep after a tough day can be difficult.

Worry about the near or distant future has contributed to many a sleepless night.

Wouldn’t it be wonderful if we could let go of those bedtime bad thoughts and replace them with ones that are more positive and sleep inducing?

As a child, bedtime prayers were a comfort, and prayers or meditation can help relax you, but perhaps not completely.

When you were young, having Mommy and Daddy gently kiss you goodnight and check for monsters under the bed also really helped. Your parents’ love is what comforted you.

Now that we are adults and have to comfort our own children, how do we get some of that same self-healing after a day of disappointment?

My wife and I like to hold one another and just say “I love you” in as many ways as we can think of, but the other night was different.

We were discussing the problem du jour as we got ready to sleep. We held each other close and reminded ourselves that, no matter what, we would be okay.

Then the thought occurred to me that among all the craziness of the day, we had also shared a magical moment, and I reminded her of it. We both smiled and felt the warmth of the thought and what had happened, and that little realization gave us both greater peace of mind.

Finding something wonderful in the day, even something small, can temper any harshness that may have crossed your path.

So now, before going to sleep, I’ve started asking my darling wife, “Honey, what was the best thing that happened to you today?” And it makes her smile, and we both fall asleep more easily. Just knowing that I have contributed to her inner harmony is enough to make me feel good, and I also share something I thought was amazing in the day.

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