By Nara Schoenberg
Do you dream about chasing after your first love?
Embracing a bearded stranger?
Getting intimate with a movie star, a presidential candidate or even, gasp, some random guy at work?
Best-selling author Kelly Sullivan Walden is here to tell you what it all means in her new book, “The Love, Sex and Relationship Dream Dictionary: Your Guide to Interpreting 1,000 Common Dreams and Symbols about your Romantic Life.”
Walden, a life coach and certified hypnotherapist, offers a multifaceted approach, in which you identify symbols in your dreams, consider the associations they hold for you, look them up in her dictionary and weigh them against your life experience.
There are no one-size-fits-all answers, but there are lots of helpful suggestions from a seasoned dream interpreter.
“Most of us miss the brilliance of our dreams because they don’t make sense to the logical part of our brain,” Walden says.
“A dream dictionary like this is kind of a crutch, it’s a step to being able to say, ‘Oh, wait a minute, I can start to see symbolically what this could mean.’ Hopefully there will be some ahas. And just like learning a language, at some point you won’t need the dictionary anymore, but until then, it’s nice to have a guide.”
Here’s how Walden broke down two real-life dreams.
DREAM NO. 1
You’re lying in bed, paying the bills. You’re not wearing any makeup; you haven’t taken a shower. You’re vaguely aware that you, and your room, are kind of a mess, but you don’t particularly care. You’re focused on the task at hand when suddenly, completely out of nowhere, a very handsome co-worker appears. He lies down next to you and presses his stubbly cheek against your smooth one.
A wave of intense desire sweeps over you. You feel totally loved, accepted and understood by that random guy from accounting.