By Cheryl Stritzel McCarthy
WWR Article Summary (tl;dr) Want to boost your self confidence? How about keeping a file of positive notes and thank-you letters you receive. When someone compliments you, write it down and toss it in the file. When you doubt yourself, dip into your file. That’s just one of several suggestions in this article that focuses on how to be the best YOU!
Job interview? Sales pitch? Big date? How you see the situation can affect how it goes.
Psychologists know that when you change how you perceive a challenging situation, how you present it to yourself, your performance can improve.
No need to feed yourself pep talk or lie to yourself, says Jessyca Arthur-Cameselle, psychologist and consultant at the Center for Performance Excellence at Western Washington University in Bellingham, Wash. That doesn’t work.
Instead, think rationally. Focus on facts. Remember past accomplishments: a date laughing at your joke, positive feedback after a work presentation, an athletic endeavor in which you achieved your goal. Dig deeper to create a complete mental picture of your best performances.
To help, keep a file of positive notes and thank-you letters you receive. When someone compliments you, write it down and toss it in the file. When you doubt yourself, dip into your file. Athletes, musicians and actors can pull out videos of their best performances.
How can you remember past accomplishments if you’ve never given a speech before a huge audience or tackled some other challenge of new and larger scope? Reach into your memory for similar events. Maybe you practiced your presentation in front of your colleagues and got good feedback. Maybe you gave it a month ago to a small group, and people told you afterward they enjoyed it.
Preparing material is an obvious confidence-booster, but if you’re tense and edgy even after that, try: