Divorce And Dating … How They Go Together

By Erika Ettin
Tribune News Service

WWR Article Summary (tl;dr) Dating expert Erika Ettin has a few pointers to keep in mind while looking for companionship. Ettin says that in these times of technology, dating is not necessarily better or worse, it’s just different. If you’ve recently (or not so recently) divorced and are looking to get back out there, she says it’s important to have some perspective on online dating.

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According to the American Psychological Association, in Western cultures, more than 90 percent of people get married by the time they turn 50 years old.

Forty to 50 percent of married couples in the U.S., however, get divorced. And the divorce rate for second and third marriages is even higher.

According to the Witherspoon Institute, many factors may contribute to a couple’s uncoupling: the age at which you get married, the age difference between spouses, marital history, family history of divorce, children (both had and desired), and sexual history.

Now, I’m not sharing this information to depress you or to make you think twice about getting married or married again. What I am saying is that if you are divorced and looking to date again, you’re in very good company.

What may have been considered taboo before is more commonplace now. In fact, I often have clients who prefer meeting another divorcee so that there is a common life experience on which to build a bond.

Especially if you were married for a very long time, as many of my clients have been, online dating can seem very daunting.

Match.com was founded in the 1990s, as was JDate, so if you were looking for love before that, these sites were not yet an option. Dating today is a lot different than it used to be. As we learned from Aziz Ansari’s book “Modern Romance,” we used to look in our own radius for a partner.

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