Erika Ettin: It Happened To Me… I Got Ghosted

By Erika Ettin
Tribune News Service

WWR Article Summary (tl;dr) The entire online dating scene has been, in some respects, a great way of empowering women to take control of initiating and pursuing relationships.  But what happens when a relationship goes sour in this digital age?  Is a phone call or text enough? Should relationships end with an old fashioned face to face break-up?  One thing is for sure, NO ANSWER..or what some are referring to now as “ghosting” is certainly not the solution.

Tribune News Service

Falling off the earth, pulling the disappearing act, ghosting … it all means the same thing: just up and leaving a relationship without having the courtesy to tell your significant other that you’re, well, up and leaving. In the days before texting and Tinder, there was actual talking and the art of the real, in-person conversation. Even on “Sex and the City,” when Berger broke up with Carrie on a Post-it note, it was viewed as terrible form. But ghosting is worse. At least Carrie knew she had been dumped and didn’t have to wonder.

There was an article in Huffington Post called, ‘Ghosting:’ The 21st-Century Dating Problem Everyone Talks About, But No One Knows How To Deal With. It talked about how people are simply disappearing because that seems easier than breaking up with someone. The ghoster’s rationale is that he or she doesn’t want to hurt the other person’s feelings. We all know that, in reality, the only person whose feelings are spared is the ghoster him or herself. It’s the weak choice.

With the use of modern technology, it’s almost too easy to think of people as disposable or commodities. But, in reality, people are not things. You need to muster up the courage to have an actual conversation, whether you’ve been on three dates or 300. The other person deserves that much.

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