Erika Ettin: You Have To Play To Win

By Erika Ettin
Tribune News Service

WWR Article Summary (tl;dr) As dating expert Erika Ettin points out, in online dating, and dating in general, good things don’t often come to those who wait. Rather, good things come to the proactive.

Tribune News Service

In life, when we want something, we often have to take a risk. Want a new job? Better put together that resume and send it into the ether for your potential new employers to see. Want to be a success in business? Perhaps quit a job (as I did) or invest in something (or someone) you’re not 100 percent sure about. Want to meet the right partner? Join an online dating site, go to a speed-dating event, or even just tell friends you’re single and you’re willing to be set up.

Rarely do the things we want in life the most come to us neatly wrapped with a bow on top. Even the most successful people know this.

When dating, it’s important to put yourself out there to get what you want. Why do many of us think happiness will simply find us when we least expect it?

A client recently emailed me about a guy who, unfortunately, didn’t work out in the relationship department.

She wrote, “I just wanted the easy route, which was a guy who liked me to show up and be perfect, but I guess that has kind of a fairy tale ring to it. Oh well.” Sadly, as she’s starting to realize, that’s just not how it works.

In online dating, and dating in general, good things don’t often come to those who wait. Rather, good things come to the proactive.

Many people go online or go to a speed-dating event and expect to find their “one and only” simply by signing up or logging in. That’s the same as thinking you’ll get in better shape simply by paying for a gym membership. It takes a bit more energy than that. But don’t worry, all of the effort isn’t for naught. Let’s look at a few steps in the process:

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