Person To Person: Males Need To Know We Value Their Feelings

By Judi Light Hopson, Emma H. Hopson and Ted Hagen
Tribune News Service

WWR Article Summary (tl;dr) As the “person to person” team of mental health experts point out, “Out-of-control emotions will rule your life. Healthy, balanced emotions will guide your actions and outcomes harmoniously.”

Tribune News Service

Have you noticed that we live in a world where people constantly slam other people verbally? Compassion is shrinking on all fronts.

We all keep wondering why individuals don’t have respect for others.

The solution to calming tension in the world is simple: We each need to honor everyone’s feelings. Psychologists say that our society needs to especially honor the feelings of young boys.

This starts by teaching all children to value their feelings. Stuffing down feelings or ignoring them too much causes feelings to go askew.

“We don’t teach young boys that we value their feelings,” says an attorney we’ll call John. “I prosecute males for violent crimes, and I promise you, much of their anger and hate goes back to childhood feelings. They had to swallow too much pain.”

John says young boys do have compassion for each other and great sensitivity. “But,” says John, “family members often start eroding this special gift by the time a male child is five or six. They are called sissies if they want to talk about their hurts.”

He goes on to say that young boys are not only shamed for complaining or crying, but it’s normal to punish a boy for feeling his own feelings. Then, we wonder why he doesn’t grow up being sensitive and caring toward others.

We all need to understand these truths about our feelings:

-They guide us in ways that logic does not. How many times have you had a gut feeling about something that you ignored? You might have suffered the consequences by pushing those feelings aside.

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