Person To Person: Why People-Fixing Won’t Work

By Judi Light Hopson, Emma H. Hopson and Ted Hagen
Tribune News Service

WWR Article Summary (tl;dr) Most people hesitate to confide their fears and limitations to others. Instead of trying to fix them, judge them or condemn them, first see if there’s anything you can do. If not, back off and try another route.

Tribune News Service

Do you know any people who need to change? Maybe your nephew is drinking too much, or your husband is addicted to fatty foods.

Wouldn’t it be nice if you could shape up some of your co-workers? Or, what about your in-laws who resemble outlaws?

The truth is, you’ll have more luck in improving your own life if you try to fix a situation instead of people.

Here are some facts that will help:

-Don’t sugarcoat the truth. If your niece is dating a drug addict or your elderly dad is hooked on painkillers, admit the truth to yourself. Should you announce these truths to the world? No. Before you do anything, you’ll need some support from people outside your family.

-Realize your associates do impact you. For example, if others are out of control, this can push your own life off a cliff. Stay calm and figure out what to do.

-Take as much control as you can, even if it’s stressful.

For example, let’s say your husband has had a couple of heart attacks. He isn’t disciplined enough to cook healthy foods. Should you step in and take over? Yes, if you can.

“I was in this boat last year,” says a friend of ours we’ll call Vicky. “I decided I could let the high cholesterol pony run wild, or I could get some healthy meals into our house. My husband would not do it.”

Vicky told us, “I didn’t cut out the donuts and ice cream the first couple of weeks. I slowly changed our menu, so we both could adjust.”

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