Cynthia M. Allen: Motherhood Is Always Challenging But Will Never Be Regretful

By Cynthia M. Allen
Fort Worth Star-Telegram

WWR Article Summary (tl;dr) As Cynthia Allen puts it, “Despite all the parenting books and pop culture representations that would have you believe otherwise, not every moment is overflowing with joy and fulfillment.”

Fort Worth Star-Telegram

“We’re going to walk you to your car,” said the smiling woman in front of me at the grocery store, as she and her husband took the bags from my hands.

She had seen me struggling to balance my toddler, who was fussing over her balloon, on my hip while pushing my infant in her stroller and carrying three sacks of groceries to my minivan.

I was grateful for the help, but in that moment I remember thinking, “How did this become my life?”

I know I’m not alone in that sentiment, the sense that after children, life is somehow out of your control.

Most mothers I know, even the ones who disguise it well, have at least one day when the circumstances of their lives, the third middle-of-the-night nursing, the grocery store toddler meltdown, the constant carting of preteens to after-school activities, the inability to read an entire news article without interruption, really get to them.

Motherhood is hard
Despite all the parenting books and pop culture representations that would have you believe otherwise, not every moment is overflowing with joy and fulfillment.

There are days, months even, of dissatisfaction that force you to question your abilities and choices.

Couple that with exhaustion, reduced mental stimulation and the failure to take regular showers or fit into your pre-pregnancy wardrobe, and you have a recipe for limitless frustration.

There’s a reason why some studies show that the arrival of a child can dramatically reduce a person’s happiness, at least for a time.

A friend of mine with an MBA compared being a mom with her previous job.

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