By Erika Ettin
Tribune News Service.
We all hear stories of people who have met, either online or “in real life,” and they say, “(S)he isn’t my type at all, but it works!” Or, “I definitely didn’t up with the person I thought I wanted, but it’s so much better than I could have imagined.”
For that reason, when it comes to online dating, it’s best to err on the side of being inclusive because you just never know if that diamond in the rough is the person you didn’t know you were looking for. Here are a few specific questions on the topic from current and former clients:
Q: If you were me, would you have gone out with some of the guys who I decided not to contact?
-Debbi, 35, Washington, DC
A: It really depends on the reason you didn’t want to contact them. No attraction whatsoever? No need to email them (or email back). One thing in the profile that potentially seemed iffy? Go for it since there’s nothing to lose. My philosophy is to open all the doors at the outset. You can always close them later if you want to (after a few emails or a date), but you might as well give yourself the chance.
Q: Is it worth it to go out with someone you’re just “meh” about from the profile? Is it encouraging or discouraging?
-Randi, 52, New York, NY
A: It’s both. Sometimes you walk into the bar/coffee shop/restaurant, and you know immediately that there’s just no chance in a million years that this is going to work. That’s discouraging, of course. But even the bad dates make for great stories sometimes. (I know I’ve told my story about accidentally going out with the same person twice… six years apart!) Remember that you never know if you’ll have chemistry with someone until you meet in person.