Are You Addicted To Online Dating?

By Erika Ettin
Tribune News Service

WWR Article Summary (tl;dr) If you are honest with yourself, do you know what your true intentions are with online dating? Dating expert Erika Ettin shows us how some people are using these apps in ways that don’t really support finding and cultivating intimate long term relationships.

Tribune News Service

For many people, online dating is a means to an end. A person wants to, say, end up in a long-term relationship.

So, he or she goes on a site like Match or OkCupid or Coffee Meets Bagel, dates any number of people, truly connects with one, and decides to cancel his or her account, ultimately. Success! (Of course, some people don’t want a long-term relationship, which is also a valid choice.)

Then, there are other people who send messages day-in-and-day out trying to see just how many dates they can line up.

They know that if Monday’s date doesn’t work out, then Tuesday’s and Wednesday’s are right around the corner.

To be clear, I recommend dating multiple people to see who the best fit is, but once you find that person, it’s probably time to ease up on the every-five-minute swipe sessions.

As a college boyfriend of mine said at the ripe old age of 21, “There’s always another bus around the corner.”

As you might imagine, that’s not exactly what you want to hear from your significant other … while you’re still seeing each other. Thanks, Geoff.

If you are, in fact, looking for something serious or long-term, then you might want to assess whether you’re looking for the best mate for you or whether you’re kind of obsessed with, or, dare I say, addicted to, the process of online dating. You might be getting a case of what I call “Grass is Greener Syndrome.”

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