This Holiday Season, Don’t Compare Your Life To The Movies

By Erika Ettin
Tribune News Service

WWR Article Summary (tl;dr) Dating expert Erika Ettin warns people to be careful how much holiday TV movies they watch this time of year. Ettin suggests that many are a big problem in that they often shape what we think the “perfect relationship” should look like.

Tribune News Service

We’re coming up on that time of year again (seems like it was just here, no?), the one where you turn on the TV and find a never-ending stream of holiday movies.

Sure, plenty of these movies are just plain kitschy, like “Elf” or “Home Alone,” but the good majority of them may start fairly innocuously but somehow transform into a saccharine love story right before our eyes.

Now, don’t get me wrong. I love these movies … as long as I have a box of tissues and my dog’s belly nearby to help ease the emotions.

Actually, now that I think about it, I’d bet all four Hanukkah latkes that I ate tonight (two plain and two a fun creation I made … with homemade applesauce to boot) every single holiday movie at least hints at romance if it’s not thrown smack dab in our faces … and most, if not all, have a happy ending.

As a dating coach, I see a big problem: These movies often shape what we think the “perfect relationship” should look like. And I’m not even just talking about romantic relationships here but relationships in general, with family or friends too. But mainly romantic partners.

So many times, a client will report back to me after a date something like this:
The date was pretty good. We sat and talked for three hours, but I’m just not sure if we had that “spark.” We did have a lot in common, and he/she asked me interesting questions, but I’m not sure we’re a match. No need to go out again.

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