By Heidi Stevens
WWR Article Summary (tl;dr) Columnist Heidi Stevens gives her thoughts on Suzanne Venker’s new book “The Alpha Female’s Guide to Men & Marriage.” Venker is making waves for contending that her marriage style, playing beta to her husband’s alpha, is the way to achieve a successful union.
Suzanne Venker is free to conduct her marriage however she sees fit.
I can think of nothing more personal and less appropriate for public debate than the daily dance two people engage in to keep their souls forever entwined, not to mention their careers cultivated, bills paid, dishes washed and children (if they’re present) fed.
But Venker, whose book, “The Alpha Female’s Guide to Men & Marriage” (Post Hill Press), that hit shelves on Valentine’s Day, is making waves for contending that her marriage style, playing beta to her husband’s alpha, is the be-all and end-all.
I respectfully disagree.
“Society is creating a new crop of alpha women who are unable to love,” announced a headline last week atop a much-debated excerpt from Venker’s book.
“Alpha women aren’t exactly new, but they were once a rarer breed,” Venker writes. “Today they abound. There are several reasons why, but it’s in large part due to women having been groomed to be leaders rather than to be wives. Simply put, women have become too much like men. They’re too competitive. Too masculine. Too alpha.