Why It’s A Good Idea To Break Up Before Valentine’s Day

By Lauren Chval
Chicago Tribune

WWR Article Summary (tl;dr) Columnist Lauren Chval makes the case for why it actually may be a good idea to split up before Valentine’s Day.

Chicago Tribune

With Valentine’s Day two weeks away, now is the time to make dinner reservations. It’s the time for gift buying, flower ordering and love-letter writing. There’s a lot to do. It’s not, however, the time to be plotting a breakup.

Or is it?

If a relationship has soured, certainly it can be tempting to push through the most romantic day of the year before breaking things off. Who wants to be single on Valentine’s Day? But there’s a case to be made for splitting before the holiday.

Margie Mauldin is the author of “Feedback Revolution,” a new book that provides tips for having a difficult conversation. She suggested that ending a failing relationship before Valentine’s Day saves everyone from an unpleasant experience.

“On the emotional side, it’s a lot of energy,” Mauldin said. “Valentine’s Day has a lot of expectations surrounding it. Having a person go through that when you’re just going to break up seems like double misery to me. From a dollars and cents perspective, you’re paying for a nice night out and flowers and chocolates. Right there, you’re probably talking $100 or $150 that you’re saving.”

Clinical psychologist Michael Broder said that over his 40 years in the field, his patients have spent a lot of time and money working through their depression and anxiety surrounding Valentine’s Day.

“Loneliness becomes really glaring during this time,” Broder said. “But Valentine’s Day is a fake, manmade milestone. If you’re in a good situation with someone you can enjoy it with, then it’s great. If not, there’s a word for that: reality. If the reality is you’re going to break up, I don’t think you’re doing them any favors by holding on until after Valentine’s Day. It’s one thing if you’re going to work on the relationship, but if you know this relationship is a dead man walking, you owe it to yourself and the other person to move forward and start minimizing the pain.”

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